How to tell my wife when you purchase something

If say I was looking at a Mavic 2 Pro, I would continue bringing up the name, then bringing up the "expensive" options like the Inspire 2... after about a month my Jedi mind tricks usually work

I simply point to my wife’s shoe and handbag collection....’nuff said

My wife says that she gets to buy something of equivalent value for any expensive “toy” I buy. So, everything I buy actually costs me double. Keeps me in check.

Sometimes I wish she would have stopped me!! Especially when it’s 100 degrees out or raining (75% of the time in Florida)....when I complain about $ she throws it up though !! But basically no hiding !! ?

Our system, we enable each others hobbies. Worked with our motorcycles (nothing says happy birthday like a brand new chain and sprocket) and seems to work with our latest hobbies, Ham Radio and Drones.

zeusfl said:

After read some concerns from many people here in the forum when they purchase something expensive I decide open this thread since I guess will be very beneficial and healthy for us to keep surviving on earth.
How do you tell your wife when you purchase a new drone or something expensive.

Me personally because I purchase in Amazon a lot I tend to hide the purchase by Archiving utility in amazon. Now, when I have no way to hide something I just say I pay the house, bills and everything is up to date and this is my hobby... period.
Now I will like to hear most advanced techniques from you guys. This can be very interesting.

I tend to hide with stuff more than $300.00

How about you guys ?

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My wife and I pretty much have the same amount of mad money. What she does with her money is not my business and the same applies to me. We have been married over 38 years. So if it ain’t broken. Don’t fix it.

What zeusfl said works the same here.
But if I’m short I just make what ever I want my screensaver and mope around till she says ..Just buy the ( Mod Removed His Wife’s Language ) thing then I do and put the grands slideshow pictures
back on. ?

I just be the man that I am and say look woman I'm getting xxx and it costs this much and you're just gonna have to live with it...

Then I go to my office manager and ask if I can use the company card for a personal purchase and pay her back so I don't have to go through he wife

zeusfl said:

After read some concerns from many people here in the forum when they purchase something expensive I decide open this thread since I guess will be very beneficial and healthy for us to keep surviving on earth.
How do you tell your wife when you purchase a new drone or something expensive.

Me personally because I purchase in Amazon a lot I tend to hide the purchase by Archiving utility in amazon. Now, when I have no way to hide something I just say I pay the house, bills and everything is up to date and this is my hobby... period.
Now I will like to hear most advanced techniques from you guys. This can be very interesting.

I tend to hide with stuff more than $300.00

How about you guys ?

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I do a fly-by outside the living room window.

zeusfl said:

Pretty much that's how works with me. We have divided the bills and we do not join the income. We keep separate accounts. As long she pay her bills and I pay mine what you do with your money is your business. It works for me as well.

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My wife says separate checking accounts are key to a happy marriage. As long as I contribute my share of the household bills, i get no complaints.

I'm fortunate that there's no need to hide my purchases from my other half. She and I both thankfully see eye-to-eye on our expenses, and we trust each other that our "fun" expenditures don't impact other financial goals we've set. We have a budget that we adhere to - and a hobby bucket is just as important as a college savings plan, or retirement savings. This extends into how we manage our mortgage, auto loans, future goals, vacations, etc...

Financial trust is an important aspect of a relationship because it permeates into all matter of our lives. All discussion points for any activities ultimately comes back to cost, and we spend money where we see value. It would be a relationship problem if my wife didn't see my outlets as being important to me and vis-versa. How this is organized is not important (single account, multiple access accounts, individually accessed accounts) - what IS important that that we are on the same page.

Don't get me wrong, my wife raises her eyebrow at me at times but she knows I wouldn't sacrifice, say a family vacation for a drone, or dip into our emergency fund for the next new gaming machine.

I've been married 40 years. We talk about major purchases beforehand. She never says no. Sometimes she'll tell me to wait a little while. Tonight, we ordered $3,700 in new furniture and a new 65" TV. We started talking about this ten days ago.
We should have the furniture in 10 weeks. Merry Christmas to us.

We have joint accounts. And I'm klutz with money and my wife used to work in finance so she handles everything. Can't hide anything at all. Some time back I rang her up about 6:00pm to say I was working late and I might call into the local for a quick one on the way home. She was doing the finances at the time and she said 'Bulldust. You're in the St Leonards Tavern already. You bought the first round at 5:10 with your credit card and you just bought another.'

Curses...

Easier to beg for forgiveness than permission. ?

Wozza said:

We have joint accounts. And I'm klutz with money and my wife used to work in finance so she handles everything. Can't hide anything at all. Some time back I rang her up about 6:00pm to say I was working late and I might call into the local for a quick one on the way home. She was doing the finances at the time and she said 'Bulldust. You're in the St Leonards Tavern already. You bought the first round at 5:10 with your credit card and you just bought another.'

Curses...

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OUCH. Too much information. [emoji41]. Somethings we just should not share.

Wozza said:

We have joint accounts. And I'm klutz with money and my wife used to work in finance so she handles everything. Can't hide anything at all. Some time back I rang her up about 6:00pm to say I was working late and I might call into the local for a quick one on the way home. She was doing the finances at the time and she said 'Bulldust. You're in the St Leonards Tavern already. You bought the first round at 5:10 with your credit card and you just bought another.'

Curses...

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This is why I control every dollar we have. She asks, can I buy this... I answer.

Also, I'm the only one making money sooooo...